i used to have more
could handle. Now i have more
It's easier to deal with
on my own.
i seek humility not humiliation, just as i seek to be humble not humbled
when you decide to take on the truth, you have to take on the
truth including past mistakes... and when you finally come to
truth, don't expect anyone else to come to theirs
aspire to what you admire
i give unconditional love with the expectation it will come back when i need it, but what i usually get back is criticism instead
solutions have "expiration date's", & epiphanies have a "best if used by".
are often today's
disclaimers serve the same function as underwear. they're both designed to cover your ass in case shit happens.
things aren't looked at as isolated incedents but
potential future liabilities
it's the devil's job to destroy my life & try to get me to blame god for it.
everyone's version of heaven is
, & few are actually
shaking up your faith allows the false notions to fall off
just because it was
doesn't make it the
god lives in your heart, but the devil lives in your head. if you feed one too much of your energy, it'll corrupt the other.
the light at the end of the tunnel may just be the next delivery room
what mainly kills a relationship is the
focus on the negative aspects of it. what saves it is the devotion of thought
action to forging new positives.
fairness is a matter of perspective
you can never get back what you've thrown away, but you
get rid of it
always try to maintain composure & be polite, avoid seeking the approval of others
kids push you beyond the limit of what you can take to learn how to react when they're pushed beyond theirs
hints are rarely an effective communication tool. they are, however, highly effective for creating misunderstandings and disappointment
panic is a guarantee that things won't go as smoothly as they could have
expectation breeds disappointment, disappointment breeds frustration, frustration breeds anger, anger breeds resentment, resentment breeds breakdown of communication
blame robs us of energy for solution
energy spent in regret is better spent in repair
attention can be an intoxicant or a repellant, depending on who's giving it
you can't do someone else's laundry just once. the first time it's appreciated, after that it's expected
a lie without malicious intent is usually just a mistake
change can be hard. not changing can be harder
you can't control what you like, but you can control your indulgence of it
if you've been around the block too many times you might want to have a better look at the road signs
the price of asking why, is knowing why
to get what I really wanted I would've given anything but it wanted everything
it takes all your energy & effort to keep your head above water. when it gets to be too much is when you find where your bottom is.. if you keep going, you
find a deeper one
the load you bear is in direct proportion to how much burden you're willing to pick up
i would rather
my own weight than
the future is
no matter how hard you try to iron things out, some wrinkles will remain and if you're not careful, you could be adding some new creases
whatever can be built, can be
. whatever can be torn down, can be
the greatest cities in the world are built on the ashes of previous ones
good reason for it, it's usually a control issue
I'm not walking away from my problems. i'm just walking away from an angry person telling me about them
people who take all the credit when things go right rarely accept blame when things go wrong. people who accept blame when things go wrong rarely take all the credit when things go right
arguments with people who have control issues are one sided...
people with control issues rarely hear explanations, they hear excuses
just because it's your way, doesn't make it the right way.
people with control issues will often try to overwhelm you so that when you do become upset, they will not only blame you for your problems, they will blame you for theirs as well
if only one is fighting it's not a competition.
it's not that i
confrontation, i want to avoid the retaliation that comes from the misunderstanding of my intent
if you wonder why i've left the decision to you, it's because i think i'm more likely to back up yours than you are to back up mine
my need for
as a need for
:difficult to attain,
to maintain, & leaves
if everything is right, what's left?
instead if complain & blame, re-frame
it sucks being stuck in the middle of the ocean without land in sight, but it helps to just pick a direction to point the boat before you start rowing. if it was the wrong way, you'll know faster
those who bring excitement rarely bring stability. those who bring stability rarely bring excitement. many don't bring either, few can bring both
some people think they're better than everyone, some people think they're worse than everyone. the rest are balanced... but not forever
the two things i always wanted to be good at were lip & mind reading. i'm horrible at both, but i've met a few people who
when you go
the current, you wind up butting heads with alot of
like when you go against the grain, you're likely to pick up more splinters
be careful of where your focus goes, and also be careful of the focus of others
taking things personally is like finding ways to justify how you feel about yourself through others
try not to visit in others the feelings you don't like yourself
when you say things about others, you're saying something about yourself too. duh
it takes only a moment for injury, but it takes time to heal
it's harder to cry while you're laughing, the opposite is true too
there's far less money in cures
peace & anxiety rarely share the same space
love is what pours out of a broken heart
like adults, but most adults often
if you're happy with your choices, what's there to complain about
making decisions is like having kids... once you make them, you have to live with them - or pay for them
who has the
to tell me i'm
long term species survival is the same as a stock portfolio, the key is diversity & anomaly
i'm capable of quality, or quantity, but
both as much as i want-to-be.
kind people are
, and weak people are
confidence is a sign of self-assurance. over-confidence is a sign of insecurity
to lower stress, remove 2 things from your life. JUDGEMENT & EXPECTATION, yeah, right
most of my
comes from the
that others will do as
would have done, or i would have
it's frustrating to expect everyone to attain the level of perfection you've set for yourself
too much work on the facade leaves the inside empty
anger burns red, acted on anger burns white. its easier to cool down red. white will run it's course
avoid asking simple questions of complicated people
avoid arguments with people who like to argue
don't try to fight it, try to guide it
bad things usually don't happen in ones, they happen at once
you can't beat the attitude out of anyone, its already been beaten into them
when we laugh with it
some people live their lives by
people's standards, some people expect
to live by
rules are meant to be
to reassess their current validity.
you can force people to change behaviors, but unless you address the feelings that caused them as well, they're likely to return
Thoughts and feelings are like stray cats, if you feed them, they'll be back. Once they're there, they're difficult to get rid of.
shed your tears, then shred your fears
less worrier, more warrior
if santa has two reindeer, & only one does the work, they'll all go in circles
a narcissist is just a sociopath, with a heart.
today i will do the
best i can
, & hope it was good enough. some days it will be, some days it won't.
when my best isn't good enough, is where
issues stop, & someone else's
. can only do something about my
a stewardess taught me that if i dont put the air mask on myself
when the pressure drops, i won't be able to help
else, & we'll
your thinking is limited to your knowledge, but your imagination isn't
people who try to be everyone's best friend, are usually their own worst enemy
people too often put a cast on a cut & a band-aid on a severed arm
some people find too much forgiveness for others & not enough for themselves, some people find too much forgiveness for themselves and not enough for others
fine qualities... time & money management are
staring is usually caused by using all your brain's power to work on a problem that won't have resolve at that moment
if your wondering why you're
, ask your computer to run a dozen programs at once & watch what happens
may the wonders never cease, & the ceasers never wonder.
BOREDOM is the energy we asked our bodies for, just
when we asked for it
difficult people & situations are a catalyst for a deeper level of peace, or anxiety... whichever
learn war, practice peace
else is the asshole, it was probably
the blameless tend to blame the most
girls start out wanting to be thought of as nice, but they have a wild side. boys start out wanting to be thought of as wild, but they have a nice side. come about 40, the roles switch.
GIRL TACTICS: to get someone to do what
want them to, but let them think it was
GUY TACTICS: if you screw it up enough times, THEY'LL STOP ASKING YOU TO DO IT!
find out what someone
about themself & tell them they're
. and knowledge without
i don't know who keeps losing all this weight, but i keep finding it.
worry burns up the very energy we
for what we were
about in the first place.
no worries, no hurries, chance of flurries
there's a fine line in between feeling like a pain in the ass, & feeling forgotten. it's the same line as the one in between assertion & aggression
i'm not treated like i'm as good as the last thing i've done right, i'm treated like i'm as bad as the last thing i've done wrong.
i'm often seen as the adversary perceived rather than the ally intended
i see the need for structured people, but they
see the need for
be careful about judging books by their covers. they may slam shut on the finger you're pointing
some people focus on people's feelings & disregard their behaviors, some people focus on people's behaviors & disregard their feelings
in the hopes of restoring the worth that was taken from them, but it only creates more people who feel worthlessness
people who have trouble saying no usually attract the people who have trouble hearing no
I talk to myself because I think I'm more likely to remember what I've heard, than what I've thought
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